Press Reviews

• Zachary Zane, Author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

  An incredibly thorough yet easily digestible book for any friend or family member looking to support and better understand their loved one's decision to be polyamorous! Lola's writing is engaging, non-judgmental, and educational.

• Laura Boyle, relationship coach and author of Monogamy? In This Economy??

  This guide to better understanding nonmonogamy and supporting your polyamorous loved one is a must-read for family members and friends who need more information and context about these styles of relating. Lola Phoenix offers kind and no-nonsense guidance I wish my family had when I told them about polyamory many years ago.

• Meg-John Barker, author of How To Understand Your Relationships

  Beautifully balances an affirming stance to diverse relationship styles with an honest exploration of the challenges that come with relating outside the norm. Contains all the information those who are unfamiliar with non-monogamy need, presented in an accessible and engaging way with lots of helpful examples. It also addresses all the common questions friends and family have, answering these clearly and with compassion and wisdom around the understandable fears that generally underlie people's concerns. A spot on template for how we might support the people we love in their relationships and in general.