Herlem provides two particularly useful resources, one for parents ("Messages that children should never be asked to carry") and a checklist for both children and parents which lists children's emotions and their emotional needs resulting from the uncertainty that has flooded their lives... This is a useful book which Educational and Child Psychologists could discuss with parents whose children are exhibiting the emotional and behavioural problems which commonly result from the separation or divorce.
Common questions such as: Is it my fault that my parents are getting divorce? Do I have to choose between my mum and my dad? Is it normal to feel angry with my parents? are all covered in a sensitive and candid way that children will be able to understand and relate to. The book recognises the emotions and reactions of everyone in the family and includes separate conclusions for parents and children.